Dr. Melissa Merrick, President and CEO of Prevent Child Abuse America, on the death of George Floyd


June 3, 2020

For the last several days, emotions that have run high for generations have clearly reached a boiling point, here in Chicago and throughout the country. The understandable outrage, profound sadness, and deafening demands for change stemming from the death of George Floyd and countless others before him are feelings that we at Prevent Child Abuse America share. For those who grieve, we grieve with you.

We remain steadfast in our mission—to prevent the abuse and neglect of our nation’s children—and we continue to envision a world where all children grow up happy, healthy, and prepared to succeed in supportive families and communities. To do this effectively, we focus on a comprehensive approach, proactively creating the conditions for thriving children and families. To be truly successful, we must actively dismantle the root causes of stress and anxiety that can lead to child abuse, including systemic, structural racism and discrimination. Research consistently highlights the disproportionate exposure and effects of trauma and adversity within communities of color, but too many of our policies and systems produce, rather than eliminate, such disparities. We know that we can do better, and that most Americans want every child to grow up feeling secure.

We cannot tackle these issues single-handedly—no one can—but neither can we sit idly by and allow our children, families, and communities to suffer. At moments like this, it is more important than ever for us to stand together to advocate for racial justice and equity. To do so, we rely on strong partnerships—with our nationwide network of state chapters and Healthy Families America affiliates, with external collaborators at the local, state, and federal levels, and with leaders in the business and civic communities. We all have a role to play in creating a better future for every child, regardless of the color of their skin.

We call upon everyone in our network to take action and support those affected by this time of unrest—in whatever ways you can—to continue to educate and spread awareness in your communities, and to work together to protect children from the effects of systemic racism. At Prevent Child Abuse America, we are deeply committed to reforming the systems that have jeopardized the safety of our children as a byproduct of the persistent racial inequities they produce and exacerbate.

Together, we CAN prevent child abuse, America—because childhood lasts a lifetime.


Dr. Melissa Merrick
President & CEO
Prevent Child Abuse America/Healthy Families America
228 S. Wabash, 10th Floor, Chicago, IL 60604


  
 

 


Dr. Melissa Merrick, President of Prevent Child Abuse America

                                                                                                                                              

These are unprecedented and trying times—the world we know is changing by the minute. In this challenging era, we are grateful for the many frontline workers who  are working tirelessly to provide concrete supports and address the  physical and mental health needs of children and families across the country.  There has also  been an increased focus on the issue of child sexual abuse prevention over the past couple of months. For example, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) issued a request for proposals  sexual abuse prevention for  youth serving organizations solutions to the issue of  online child sexual abuse. These are encouraging signs for an issue that for so many years has received little funding and national  attention. However, recent news from the Department of Education regarding new rules under Title IX, anticipated to take effect by  mid-August, raise serious concerns for victims of sexual abuse and misconduct in the higher education setting. The rules represent a substantial setback in the arena of civil rights and educational equity. Among the changes to Title IX are  a narrowing definition of what constitutes sexual harassment, forcing  victims to confront their perpetrators, flexibility for institutions to  determine the level of evidence necessary (i.e., clear and convincing) to  substantiate a sexual assault claim, and rollbacks on requirements of who  is mandated to report cases of sexual violence (e.g., coaches).  Sexual abuse and harassment thrive under conditions of ambiguity and secrecy. Unfortunately, these new rules provide disincentive for  victims to come forward, making it look, on paper, like the problem is  going away. It will not! The new rules will force victims to remain quiet, instead of holding perpetrators accountable. We have seen too  many cases of sexual misconduct handled improperly by institutions of higher education, making it all the more difficult for victims to expect  justice if and when they come forward. The prevention of child sexual abuse and misconduct is possible when adults and institutions create the conditions and contexts where opportunities for perpetration are minimized and when protections and support for victims are enhanced. We at Prevent Child Abuse America will continue to advocate for strategies to prevent sexual abuse and other forms of child abuse and neglect from occurring in the first place and for supports for those who have been victimized.        

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Dr. Melissa Merrick, President of Prevent Child Abuse America with a Covid 19 Message

 you can help ensure that children and families continue to receive the resources and support they need. Circumstances that increase parental stress and anxiety—loss of income, food and housing instability, social disconnection, and limited or nonexistent access to quality healthcare—are more acute now than just a month ago. Evidence shows that these circumstances can increase the risk of child abuse and neglect..

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“Lean on me:” Coping with COVID" Linda Johnson on Daveid Goodman Show

“Lean on me:” Coping with COVIDPosted on April 29, 2020The COVID-19 pandemic and economic crisis are impacting many people’s mental health. A recent poll by Kaiser showed that 45% of adults in the United States reported that their mental health has been negatively impacted due to worry and stress over the virus. In another indication of stress, alcohol sales are up by over 50%. Social distancing makes everything harder. Child abuse advocates point to a concerning drop in reported cases of abuse as children are no longer in school and seen by teachers and counselors. Vermont mental health and child abuse experts discuss what they are seeing and what people can do. Washington Country Mental Health is preparing a group singing of the Bill Withers classic, “Lean On Me.” A global performance of the song can be found here.

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Tips for Staying Connected: Dr. Melissa Merrick, President of Prevent Child Abuse America

For our collective health and well-being, we must adhere to the requirements of social distancing. Physical distance, however, does not mean we need to remain socially disconnected or isolated. In fact, individuals, families, and communities can maintain the one thing we all need right now…social connection!

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Vulnerable children are at risk of abuse during coronavirus crisis. Let’s protect them.

Vulnerable children are at risk of abuse during coronavirus crisis. Let’s protect them.  

BY SHEILA BOXLEY AND MICHELLE CALLEJAS SPECIAL TO THE SACRAMENTO BEE  

Just days after schools, child care and after-school programs closed, child abuse reports in Sacramento County and across California drastically decreased. In Sacramento County, calls to the Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline have decreased by about 50%. This is not good news; it is cause for deep concern. Vulnerable children at risk of abuse are “sheltering at home,” possibly under extremely difficult conditions.   Even at the best of times, parenting is hard, and during a crisis can be completely overwhelming, currently at a magnitude few of us have ever experienced. With the added anxiety of loved ones contracting the disease, fear of losing jobs and income, inability to pay rent, severed community connections, and the need to survive in small, cramped spaces, family stress and tension are at an all-time high.   Without the protective eyes of the teachers, coaches, and doctors, and others who work with vulnerable children every day, we are not learning about what may be happening behind closed doors. Now, more than ever, these children need caring adults, like neighbors and other family members, to pay attention and take action. Now is the time to reach out and help families in this time of stress. It’s time to speak up, to pick up the phone. It is “your business”.  As we can see from what’s happening across the world, protecting children is everybody’s business and we are all accountable. On Friday, April 3, the United Nations reported that “Hundreds of millions of children around the world will likely face increasing threats to their safety and wellbeing – including mistreatment, gender-based violence, exploitation, social exclusion and separation from caregivers - because of actions taken to contain the spread of the COVID-19 pandemic.”  First, be a part of preventing child abuse by staying in touch with families with children. Be a listening ear, send a care package, talk to the children. And if you hear a child screaming or crying frequently, notice young children being left alone for long periods of time, or suspect children are being harmed in any way, call for help.   You do not need proof of your suspicion. Even though it’s hard, especially during these challenging times, we all must make protecting children our business.  If you suspect that a child is being abused, contact your local child welfare agency. Make a confidential report anytime by calling Sacramento County’s hotline at (916) 875-5437. If there is an emergency or you believe a child or someone in their household is in imminent danger, call 911.   When a family is struggling, reach out safely, and see how you can help.    If parents need support and do not know where find help, they can call the help Line at 1-800-CHILDREN.   Innocent children will be hurt unless we take a stand and help.   ~

Parents have a right to be stressed. But don't take it out on your kids; By Melissa Merrick PhD and Robert Sege MD, PhD

By Melissa Merrick PhD and Robert Sege MD, PhD Updated 9:02 AM ET, Tue April 7, 2020   Melissa Merrick, PhD, is the president and CEO of Prevent Child Abuse America. Robert Sege, MD, PhD, is a pediatrician at Floating Hospital for Children at Tufts Medical Center in Boston and on the board of Prevent Child Abuse America. (CNN)Just as prior generations were deeply affected by the Great Depression, the assassinations of Martin Luther King and the Kennedys and the horrors of 9/11, the Covid-19 pandemic may well be the defining moment in the lives of today's children. That's why we owe it to our children to focus on positive experiences during these difficult times, while minimizing adverse experiences that can wound children for a lifetime. We already know that positive experiences, especially close relationships, promote healthy child development and allow us to withstand the ups and downs of life beyond the current pandemic. At the same time, adverse experiences such as child abuse, neglect and family challenges -- particularly in the absence of protective factors -- can cause lasting damage to mental and physical health. While many parents aren't thinking about child abuse, raising awareness during this health crisis is key. That's because the increased stress we're seeing in families due to the virus can increase children's risk of abuse at the hands of their loved ones. Being on lockdown isn't all fun and games. But families need fun -- and these games help Children who are usually in school are now learning at home. Their parents may be working from home, working at essential jobs (without good childcare options) or may have lost their jobs. Children who are being abused or neglected are more likely to go unnoticed without teachers and others to help them. (Anyone worried about the possibility of abuse or neglect can still contact the national child abuse hotline: 1-800-422-4423 or childhelphotline.org. Crisis counselors answer calls 24/7 and provide crisis intervention, information, and referrals.) Some families will find that heightened stress can result in domestic violence which itself deeply affects children. If there is a gun in the home there may be greater risk, and local police are trained to help. (call the national domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or by chat at thehotline.org.) April is Child Abuse Prevention Month, a perfect time to raise awareness and take actions to support children and create experiences that will help them understand, grow, and be resilient in this unprecedented time. Talking with children Ask children about their feelings. Try to listen without judgment. Just being heard strengthens your important relationships with your children. Children need to know that they matter. Explain why physical distancing, staying at home, not playing outside with their friends, and canceling school are personal sacrifices that they (and we) make for the good of all of us. Understanding and talking about this as a shared sacrifice builds their foundations for empathy. Address children's fears. Children old enough to see the news may worry, without understanding the meaning of what they view. While the news is scary, we can be both honest and reassuring by explaining how social distancing is helping and how scientists around the world are working together to help solve the crisis. Coping with stress Many families are financially stressed, even more than usual. It's okay to talk with kids about your experience and what you're doing about it. Find resources to make it through this difficult period. Fortunately, communities; local, state, and federal governments; and many businesses and nonprofits are helping meet basic needs. Don't just look for the helpers. Be a helper. Some of us have work we can do at home. While this is a blessing, it's also confusing for children, and stressful for us. For younger children, establish routines so they know when you can be interrupted, and activities to do when you're not. Be kind to yourself. It's simply not possible to have both normal work productivity and be constantly available to your children. If you need to turn the TV on and have kids watch a movie or play a video game to give you time to focus, it's OK! Parents sometimes need a time out, too. It's fine to take a moment for a deep breath, or even step inside a locked bathroom or outside patio to decompress. Our kids are watching and learning how to best deal with stress. Try to stay calm and unapologetic about taking time for yourself so that you have something left to give your kids when you're in the right head space. Reaching out and maintaining community Kindness toward families. We are seeing an outpouring of kindness to families with children at home. Neighbors are dropping off diapers for economically stressed families, writing uplifting messages in sidewalk chalk, and putting teddy bears in their windows for toddlers and young children to find on neighborhood walks. Think about what you can do for families in your community. More technology is OK. Maintaining our own social connections and those of our children means more reliance than ever on the web. Parents might relax their rules about internet use and allow children frequent contact with their friends online over Skype, Zoom, FaceTime or the like. Similarly, having a virtual cup of coffee with a friend can reduce our own isolation. Expect to have times of depression or anxiety. Those of us who have dealt with these conditions in the past may want to seek help early. If you, or a friend or family member, is considering harming themselves, respond immediately and get help. Turn to your doctor or mental health provider, or call the national suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org for 24/7 access to a trained counselor. Navigating child custody in the time of coronavirus Physically distancing ourselves is critical to prevent infection and the spread of the virus. At the same time, social connections are more important than ever to preventing child abuse and negle During child abuse prevention month and beyond, we can all focus on making sure that our children will have good stories to tell their grandchildren.   ~

Vermont Early Childhood Forum on Childcare

In response to the Coronavirus crisis impacting Vermont’s children, families and early childhood partners, Building Bright Futures invites you to a series of forums to answer your questions about childcare.    Representatives from Vermont’s Child Development Division will be available to answer questions and clarify guidance. Parents, childcare, after school providers and early childhood partners are invited to participate. Questions can be submitted in advance by clicking here.   Topic: Childcare   Representatives from the Child Development Division participating include: Melissa Riegel-Garrett, Policy Director Child Development Division and  Karen Bielawski-Branch, Home Visiting Program Administrator, Children’s Integrated Services   Forum Dates: Fridays, 1-2 pm on April 10, April 17 and April 24   How to join: Click on this link to join from your computer, https://zoom.us/j/415559023 Or call in 646-558-8656 meeting ID: 415559023   For more information view our Coronavirus resource ~

Vermont Catholic church releases list of accused priests

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On Thursday, the Catholic Church's Diocese of Burlington published a report listing the names of priests who, since 1950, have had a “credible and substantiated” allegation of sexual abuse of a minor made against them. There are about 40 names on the list.

According to a posting on the diocese's website, all but one of the alleged acts took place more than 20 years ago. None of the priests are still active and most are dead.

Bishop Christopher J. Coyne, of the Burlington diocese, said until Thursday, “the scope of all of this has been our 'family secret.'”

“We often talk about the church as a family, as a community of faith in which we are brothers and sisters in our love for God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. We are supposed to be a people of love, a place of hope, and a community of healing. But that is not always the case. This is especially true with the significant number of cases involving the sexual and physical abuse of children by clergy, not just here in Vermont, but in the entire Church. These 'sins of the past' continue to haunt us,” Coyne wrote.

Coyne wrote about what he had done to bring the information to the public and what he plans for the future.

“In addition to confronting the sins of the past, we must remain vigilant in ensuring these sins do not occur in the future. I have listened to the stories of victims of clergy sexual abuse and will continue to do so. They need to hear over and over again that we believe them. They also need to know that we are doing everything we humanly can to make sure this does not happen again,” Coyne wrote.

Link to VPR story: https://www.vpr.org/post/diocese-burlington-releases-names-priests-accused-abusing-children

CHILD SEX ABUSE STATUTES OF LIMITATION

New York Child Victims Act window opens Wednesday 8/14/19!!

Excerpt from “Justice Denied” on Ohio’s History with SOL Reform

The hierarchy of the Catholic Church is no different from any other determined legislative player – if it cannot win on its own merits, dirty tricks will do.  Survivors of clergy abuse spent two solid years of their lives talking to Ohio legislators, attending hearing, and holding rallies to make the point that child sex abuse survivors deserve SOL reform and window legislation.  It was one of the most impressive grassroots movements I have ever witnessed.  The Senate passed the bill unanimously.  But the bishops held the upper hand, and late in the night the window bill will supposed to finally pass in the Ohio House, the bishops succeeded in making the bill disappear.

The Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP) were early proponents of SOL reform beyond California and fought hard in Ohio to get a window passed.  The proposed law extended the SOL for all current and future childhood sexual abuse claims, and, like California’s law, opened a one-year window during which the SOL did not apply.  The proposed law also mandated that clergy, like others who come into contact with children in their jobs, must report childhood sexual abuse.

In the Ohio Senate, the stars aligned for SNAP perfectly.  An Ohio resident and firefighter, Tony Comes, recently had been the subject of an Academy Award-nominated HBO documentary, Twist of Faith (2004).  I was there the day the Senate passed the window legislation unanimously – March 16, 2005.  Mr. Comes spoke, and senators spoke movingly, as did several current Catholic priests (including Father Mark Schmeider of Cincinnati, Father Steven Stanberry of Toledo, and Father Gary Hayes of Paducah, Kentucky), who themselves had been abused as children by clergy.  Survivors filled every available seat, wearing lanyards with pictures of themselves as children.  Survivors clapped and cried; it was deceptively easy to believe that the bill would sail through the House as well.  That did not happen.

In the House, the opposition began in earnest.  I suppose no one will ever know the actual motives of the chairman of the House Judiciary Committee, John Willamowski (R-Lima).  He had one meeting after another with the survivors, telling them he was on their side, but then he also held meetings with those in opposition, which included the Catholic Conference of Ohio and Bishop Frederick Campbell of Columbus, who promoted the dioceses’ contemporary actions, “including the removal of 25 priests from ministry in Cleveland alone; mandatory criminal background checks on new employees seeking to work with children; child-abuse awareness training for diocesan workers; and creation of independent councils to investigate abuse.”  Campbell’s testimony also revealed that financial concerns, such as the loss of insurance coverage, were playing a role in the Catholic Church’s attack on the legislation.

The Ohio Catholic Conference also pushed an argument that the window was unconstitutional under the Ohio Constitution.  Then Willamowski gathered everyone – pro and con – around a large conference table in the House for a series of meetings.  I attended a few of the meetings to explain why the bill was constitutional.  Willamowski’s theory appeared to be that there was a middle ground only he could find if he just forced the two sides to meet often enough. 

SNAP pushed for a public hearing and got one on Nov. 10, 2005.  One panel addressed the hierarchy’s argument that the window legislation was unconstitutional.  I testified in favor of the bill while Professor Christopher Fairman, of Ohio State University School of Law and Timothy Luckhaupt, the Ohio Catholic Conference lobbyist, argued against the one-year window for three main reasons, none of which have proven to be true, though they were enough to defeat the window in Ohio:

 It’s unfair.  Going back 35 years means applying what we know today about pedophiles to a time when more people believed they could be treated and returned to the ministry.  It’s unconstitutional. And even if some people disagree, lawmakers should wait to see what the Ohio Supreme Court does with two pending cases involving people who sued the Catholic Church after the statute of limitations ran out.  It’s unnecessary.  The Catholic Church has taken a number of steps to prevent future sex abuse, including sex-abuse awareness training, and many dioceses have published the names of priests found to have committed to sex abuse. 

Days after the hearing on whether the window was constitutional, on Nov. 22, 2005, there was a second hearing in front of the House Judiciary Committee where approximately 115 survivors and supporters were in attendance.  For almost twelve hours, with only a forty-five-minute lunch break, the committee heard testimony from forty-one individuals, out of sixty-seven who were prepared to testify.  One survivor stated that he was sexually molested by this Cincinnati Catholic high school principal the day after his father died of cancer.  The courageous and outspoken Bishop Thomas J. Gumbleton revealed that he himself had been molested and stated his unequivocal support for a one-year window: “First of all, I am here because there is still the strong likelihood that some perpetrators have not yet been brought to account.  That is why I support the one-year civil window.  I do believe that the abusers need to be exposed. I also believe that this can only be assured if the possibility exists to bring these matters into a civil court of law.  By doing this we will increase, as far as humanly possible, the protection from becoming victims of sexual abuse that all children have a right to.”

Survivors were hopeful.  However, the night the window bill was supposed to pass on the floor of the Ohio House, the Republicans went into caucus and reappeared with a substitute bill.  The window had disappeared and was replaced with the bishops’ choice, which guaranteed survivors would not be compensated.  Local newspapers noted that the substitute bill had removed the “looking back” provision of a one-year window.  In its place now is a worthless and probably unconstitutional civil registry of sex offenders.  The substitute bill would allow an offender’s name to be placed on the registry after a judicial determination that a victim had been sexually abused, even if the offended has never been criminally charged.  The offended would then have to report an address and employer.  The survivor would only be able to collect legal fees.  Barbara Blaine, a survivor of clergy abuse in Ohio, and president of SNAP, stated that “this registry is a shallow, empty promise that will provide no measure of protection for children or justice for survivors.”  She was right of course.

Statistics on Statutes of Limitation (SOL) for Child Sex Abuse

There are two paths to justice for children who have been sexually abused: criminal prosecution and civil lawsuits.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of child sex abuse victims cannot prosecute or file civil lawsuits because they missed the arbitrary procedural deadline—the statute of limitations (“SOLs”)—for their claims.

Most victims miss the statute of limitations because of the disclosure delay that is common among child sex abuse victims.

Statistically, 1/3 of the victims of child sex abuse discloseas children and another 1/3 never disclose. Studies show that the average age to disclose is 52, with the median age 48.

The reasons for delay are specific to each individual, but often involve disabilities that result from the trauma (e.g., depression, PTSD, substance abuse, and alcoholism). The institutional sex abuse  scandals have  revealed callous disregard for the welfare of children.

Short statutes of limitation block justice for the victims and simultaneously protect the perpetrators and institutions.

There are  two groups of sex abuse victims to consider:

(1) the victims whose claims have expired and

(2) the children currently being abused.

Thirty-eight states including the District of Columbia, or 75%, have amended their child sex abuse statutes of limitation since January 2002. Yet, with all of the activity in the states since 2002, no state has reached the pinnacle of SOL reform, which is to simply eliminate the civil and criminal SOLs backwards and forwards. 

The future of statutes of limitation

This movement  has been very active across the United States since January 2002, when the Boston Globe’s Spotlight team first disclosed institution-based sex abuse in a trusted institution, the Boston Archdiocese. The movement has been mobilized by the appearance in the public square of victims of child sex abuse who were previously invisible to the public. 

With 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys sexually abused, the United States is home to millions of victims, and most, even today, have not disclosed the abuse to the public. While the opposition to victims’ access to justice remains strong from certain corners, it is apparent that with the #MeToo movement and a steady stream of victims coming forward, lawmakers are likely to continue to focus on SOL reform. The pace of change, based on these child sex abuse statistics, is unlikely to slow down anytime soon. 

The next frontier for CHILD USA is to study what happens when statutes of limitations are reformed and the actual effects on justice and the victims.

Definitions: 

  • Window = a law that eliminates the civil SOL for all victims, even if the SOL has expired

  • Retroactive = applicable to acts that occurred before the date of enactment of the law

  • Civil Elimination = elimination of civil SOL; goes into effect according to the terms of the statute (can be retroactive or only prospective)

  • Civil Extension = extension of civil SOL by a set number of years

  • Criminal Elimination = elimination of SOL for crimes; starts running on the date the law goes into effect

  • Criminal Extension = extension of the SOL for crimes by a set number of years; starts running on the date the law goes into effect

IN THE NEWS

New Jersey Extends Statute of Limitations, Allows Sex Abuse Victims Much More Time to Sue

https://www.northjersey.com/story/news/new-jersey/2019/05/13/nj-extends-statute-limitations-child-abuse-cases/1183930001/

Group the passed the Statue of Limitations reform in New Jersey, May 13, 2019

New York’s CVA:

https://www.nysenate.gov/legislation/bills/2019/s2440

Church abuse scandal: Man campaigns for statute of limitation reform

DUTCH GODSHALK | AUGUST 12, 2018

Critic of clergy abuse compensation program: ‘It’s a virtual black hole’ – The Buffalo News

"Administrators of a Diocese of Buffalo program to compensate childhood victims of clergy sex abuse will consider whether the diocese had "prior notice" of an alleged abuser's conduct as they determine how much money the victims should get.But it's unclear if diocesan officials are under any obligation to hand over personnel files that show whether the diocese knew a priest was prone to abuse.That's one of the compensation program's major shortcomings, according to lawyers for some of the victims.People who make claims of abuse with the diocese aren't told what information, if any, the diocese provides to program administrators."It's a virtual black hole of a protocol," said J. Michael Reck, an attorney who represents more than 30 clients who filed claims with the Buffalo compensation program."

J. TOKASZ | AUGUST 12, 2018

Hovland: Iowa's laws on child sexual abuse, endangerment need to change

A bright light needs to be shed on child sexual abuse/endangerment laws in Iowa, mainly plea deals and how they are handed out so freely.

BARBARA HOVLAND | AUGUST 10, 2018

Backing civil statute of limitations reform would be the best way bishops could help child sexual abuse victims [opinion]

"Bishop Ronald W. Gainer of the Roman Catholic Diocese of Harrisburg held a press conference Wednesday to apologize for the sexual abuse of children by priests and others in the church over decades. The Harrisburg diocese also released a list of 71 clergy members and seminarians alleged to have sexually abused children since 1947.  LNP reported Friday that the list included the late Monsignor Francis Joseph Taylor, who served as Lancaster Catholic High School’s principal from 1958 to 1975, and the late Rev. Thomas Ronald Haney, who was the assistant to the principal at LCHS from 1961 to 1964 and directed the school’s athletic program. According to LNP records, Haney previously had served three years as assistant pastor at St. Anne Catholic Church in Lancaster; later in his life, he was known to many local Catholics as the executive editor of The Catholic Witness, the diocesan newspaper, and as a spokesman for the diocese."

B. SHAHAN | AUGUST 5, 2018

Vermont Leads The Way: Beyond 'Good' Vs. 'Bad' Touch: 4 Lessons To Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

Beyond 'Good' Vs. 'Bad' Touch: 4 Lessons To Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

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More than 58,000 children were sexually abused in the U.S. in 2017, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

Many states are trying to curb those numbers — 20 now require sexual abuse prevention education by law. In 2009, Vermont became one of the first.

K-12 schools in Vermont are required to provide sexual violence prevention to all students. Schools must also provide information to parents. Additionally, all schools and childcare facilities are required to train teachers and adult employees.

Vermont is a testing ground for states like Wyoming, which is one of nine other states that allow or recommend this type of education, but don't require it.

Jody Sanborn, the prevention specialist for the Wyoming Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, wants all Wyoming communities to work to keep kids safe from sexual abuse. But she says Wyoming isn't there yet.

"Wyoming is at a stage of what we call denial or resistance that the issue even exists in the first place," Sanborn says.

Eventually, she'd like to see something in place to guarantee schools are teaching prevention statewide. But she knows Wyoming's strong culture of local control makes that hard.

In Vermont, it's up to local school boards to pick the curriculum they'd like to use.

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Linda Johnson, the executive director of Prevent Child Abuse Vermont, strongly encourages schools to adopt the evidence-based model that her organization has been using since the 1990s. It's a series of age-appropriate lessons designed to help protect little kids from sexual abuse.

That may sound like a scary topic, but this curriculum takes a positive approach by focusing on healthy relationships: How to pay attention to your feelings, knowing about your body and your boundaries, and, if something doesn't feel right, knowing you can ask for help.

Joy Kitchell, who runs a child advocacy center in Bennington, Vt., teaches the curriculum distributed by Johnson's organization. Kitchell worked as a teacher and a principal for years before turning her focus entirely to sexual abuse prevention.

She says parents feel more at ease knowing that their kids aren't explicitly talking about sex or sexual violence.

Still, she says, it's up to adults to know the signs and symptoms of abuse — and teach behaviors that could prevent it.

What can parents and teachers do to keep their kids safe? Kitchell and Johnson offer some key lessons geared toward sexual abuse prevention.

The lessons also address sexual abuse between kids. Johnson says talking about these things early might keep kids from doing harm as they get older.

Teach kids to pay attention to their feelings

Around 90 percent of child sexual abusers are someone the child knows, according to the Crimes Against Children Research Center.

Kitchell says that makes it even harder for kids to understand that something bad is happening.

"A person who is grooming a child to be their victim, they are going to do it in such a way that it's not going to be painful. It's going to be confusing," she says.

That's an important departure from teaching "good" versus "bad" touch.

"If a child is taught that it's good touch or bad touch, and it's not a bad touch but it's confusing, then they might not understand that it's OK to go to a trusted adult and figure that out," Kitchell says.

Let kids know they can talk to trusted grown-ups

Linda Johnson of Prevent Child Abuse Vermont says teaching children they can tell other grown-ups any time they're confused means they don't have to decide for themselves if the touch is good or bad.

And there's an important difference between teaching a kid they should tell versus teaching a kid they can tell, she says.

"We don't want to add guilt and sense of responsibility to children who have been victimized," she says.

Learning 'no' means no

One recurring theme in the curricula is the meaning of no. "That is the foundation of consent," Johnson says.

When one kid isn't willing to share with another kid, grown-ups often jump in to force them to share. But Johnson teaches adults to take a different approach. She says it's important to remind kids that hearing "no" is part of life.

"We can teach this to 2-year-olds, and then again at 3 and 4 and 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, until — there they are in that situation in the car and one wants to and one doesn't want to," Johnson says. "And they have to be able to accept 'no' for an answer."

Start the conversation at home

When working with preschoolers and younger elementary schoolers, Kitchell uses picture books to help start conversations about boundaries and consent.

She also uses anatomically correct dolls to help kids learn the names of their body parts. She says these are things parents can also do at home.

Among the many books she uses are:

How Are You Peeling? by Saxton Freymann and Joost Elffers

Hands Off, Harry! by Rosemary Wells

Uncle Willy's Tickles: A Child's Right to Say No by Marcie Aboff

All By Myself by Mercer Mayer

The New Baby by Mercer Mayer

The Bare Naked Book by Kathy Stinson and Heather Collins