By now, most of our children have returned to school. It’s the time of year that is welcomed by parents who are ready to get back into a routine after a summer of long busy days and flexible bedtimes. As a result of Covid it may also be an emotional time, for families who have never sent a child off to school before. There is no doubt back to school is a big transition for families. It can mean having to adjust work schedules, routines and expectations. It is also just as big a transition for children. It can mean a new teacher, new peers, new rules and expectations, new schedules, sometimes a new school, and, or a new after school program, new bus route, and new routines at home, such as a new bedtime or wake up time.

While navigating all these changes, it is important to establish routines that will help your family adjust to all these changes. Routines help children know what to expect, giving them a sense of security. Routines also help them to be better prepared to focus on the tasks that are being asked of them in their new settings.

A new school year brings about many new possibilities! Children’s friendships, school subjects and dreams are all growing. Ask your children about their experiences. It’s very easy to ask, “How was your day” and get only a one-word answer of “good” or “fine” or maybe even “terrible”. To gain some insight into what they are experiencing, and how they are interpreting and feeling and this big transition, Instead, try some of these open ended questions:

Tell me something new you learned today.

Did anything that was new and exciting that happen today? Tell me about it…

Tell me about someone in your class.

Tell me about something that was hard for you today.

What you are looking forward to tomorrow?

Whether your child comes home smiling or crying, remember it is all part of the process and will ebb and flow until everyone settles in, which can take up to 6 weeks. Remember to take time for yourself as this is your transition too. Taking time for you will help you respond to your child’s needs during this time of adjustment. Perhaps consider joining a Circle of Parents Support Group or a Nurturing Parenting or Strengthening Parents Program. As parents there is always room for more tools in our toolboxes! If you would like to talk about any concerns you are having please call us at The Vermont Parents Helpline at 1 800 CHILDREN, or reach out to us through the confidential chat on our website. We care about you and your children!